If the accident doesn't kill you, the admin will...

Bad luck is following me. People are suggesting I go see a sangoma or priest to get the bad voodoo lifted. I've been in four traffic accidents in about a year, all of them pretty bad. Two on the bike and two in the car. The last one that happened on the 22nd of April (voting day) was the worse damage wise. A truck drove into the back of my car and put my boot where the front seats should be. We are lucky to be alive. On the other hand, if I had been injured I might not have to deal with all the bull shit I have to deal with. I was the victim in this accident, and everyone (including my family and boyfriend) are making me feel like I'm the perp. Not a single person has said to me 'dude are you okay, how are you coping, do you want to talk about it...'. No, all I hear is 'you need to do this, and this, do this at the police, do this at the tow company, you have to do this, get a new car...' etc. And everywhere I go I'm met with a brick wall of incompetence or 'don't give a shit'. The police was a joke, in spite of the road being closed, two ambulances a fire engin and several police vans, there seems to be no record of the accident at any police station (this I figured out after two days of holding for 20min at a time), so I went to report it to a police man who had trouble reading the fucking sheet he has to fill in. He kept asking me 'what must I write here'. I dispair.

I'm dealing with people who won't release my car, hostile insurance companies, incompetant police and frankly idiots, when all I want to do is curl up in a little ball and cry. I start shaking in my sleep, I have whiplash, my whole body hurts and people treat me like I'm lazy. I'm the only one who has done a single fucking thing about this accident and I have to litterally drag information from my own insurance company, the police etc. I need a letter from my insurance company, it has taken me almost a week to get it from them, now I see they addressed it to someone else so I need a new letter. No doubt this will take another week.

So what did we learn here? If someone you know or love was in an accident, don't attack them. Don't give them shit, don't tell them they're not being assertive enough, don't be nasty. They are being attacked from all sides with hostile admin, what they need is a fucking hug not more shit.

I think what I am supposed to learn here is to trust no-one. Not the people driving on the roads with me, and not the fuckers who pretend to give a shit just so they can bash you as soon as they have a gap. I knew this before, but I'm having to learn it again. I'm learning it alright. I guess I should be gratefull after all. I'm not dead and I'm learning my forgotten lessons.